Thursday, July 31, 2014
Anonymous said: At first I thought that the lesbian Vanessa thing was because her little manly attitude and her form to dress up, I was thinking that was a conclusion because the stereotype of a women that dress manly is definitely lesbian, or lesbian can be girly enough but then you explain the hole 19th century Europe thing and... and... Was perfect, no, I mean, IS perfect! Well done, love it! ;)
Thanks. I don’t want to imply that I advocate for a gender binary in fiction (ugh) or enforcing butch lesbian stereotypes (double ugh) but if you want to interpret PH as historical fantasy, that view of Vanessa’s clothing —especially as an anomaly to the rest of the female character designs— can be a reasonable one.
my parents definitely did not raise me to be a queer feminist filled with the wrath of a thousand enraged dragons and yet here i am
[Science fiction is] out in the mainstream now. You can tell by the way mainstream literary authors pillage SF while denying they’re writing it!
Terry Pratchett (via writingquotes)
Marginalized people are not revolution objects
So, here’s a thing I’ve seen happen:
- People get really into social justice theory
- and then they read a lot from people who all agree with each other
- and then they assume that everyone in that group agrees
- and then, when they encounter someone in that group who doesn’t think that thing, they don’t know how to deal with them
- or they’re rude and condescending
- Someone who reads a lot of disability theory is excited about the idea of acceptance
- And, in particular, the reasons that mobility equipment is liberating and wonderful
- And they encounter someone who is enduring considerable pain rather than use a wheelchair
- And then they talk at them about how they just need to accept themself already, without listening to where they’re actually coming from
- That is not respectful. It can sometimes be ok to express an opinion or offer advice (emphasis on offer; people can say no to hearing your advice), but it’s not ok to try and run someone else’s life, or to take control of their self image, or related stuff
- Respecting someone has to start with respecting them as people who think for themselves, not trying to make them do what you think self-respecting people do
keep in mind that:
- No matter how much you’ve read, you’ve never been the person you’re talking to
- That goes double if you’re not a member of their group, but it applies even if you are
- Having read a lot of social justice theory, or even being part of that group and having found that it described your experience, does *not* mean that you know better than someone else how they should be living their life
- Don’t try to take people over, and don’t talk down to them
- The last thing marginalized people need is yet another person trying to run over them for their own good. They get that enough already
People are complicated, and you are never the expert on someone else’s life. Reading social justice theory, and even being really insightful about what’s wrong with our culture, does not make you an expert on someone else’s life. Their life is for them to live and make decisions about. Marginalized people are not revolution objects.
I put my hand on him. Touching him was always so important to me. It was something I lived for. I never could explain why. Little, nothing touches. My fingers against his shoulder. The outsides of our thighs touching as we squeezed together on the bus. I couldn’t explain it, but I needed it. Sometimes I imagined stitching all of our touches together. How many hundreds of thousands of fingers brushing against each other does it take to make love?
Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close (Jonathan Safran Foer)
Wednesday, July 30, 2014
"Naming and shaming Internet creeps is the latest development in a centuries-long tradition among women of using gossip as a form of solidarity and even a political weapon. It’s still true today – I can’t count the number of times I’ve heard a woman say about a man, ‘He’s a little bit creepy,’ or, even worse, ‘I wouldn’t want to be alone in a room with him.’ To the uninitiated, it might sound like lazy character assassination, but phrases like that serve as keywords for women meaning stay away."
jessieflux wrote an amazing article about women using gossip and “calling-out” to expose online predators and creeps. She asked me to contribute my story, and I was really grateful for an outlet to talk about my experience.
If you’re coping with harassment and you’re scared you have no options, read her article! And I want people who are coping with harassment to know that there are ways to fight back, and that there are people who will defend them if they decide to make the situation public. I’ve been amazed by the support I’ve received. If you ever need to, and you feel safe doing it, know that you’ll have a lot of support and a lot of sympathy if you out that fucker.
EXPOSE THE CREEPS 2014
Hello listeners. The Night Vale Civic Council on Nutrition and Petrochemicals has asked me to remind you of the importance of eating well. Most things eat. Things that do not eat may ignore the rest…
This guy is getting into Welcome to Nightvale and it’s best to stay the fuck away. He’s a bad guy. What kind of bad guy?
The kind that has been lying since for-fucking-ever and has a pattern he follows in every fandom he can get in. The kind that blames all of the abusive, terrible things he’s done on mental illnesses though his diagnoses never remain the same. The kind that has done really terrible things to people (one survivor of his abuse/cult shit describes his shamming of her body and jesus, massive trigger warning for awful body shamming).
Andy is also transphobic: he states he was assigned female at birth, but identifies as a cis straight man since he’s totally not trans, as us trans men are somehow not as man of a man as he is.
Not that it matters to him that he doesn’t ID as anything related to the LGBT community, because he’ll be happy to appropriate our pain and suffering for his cause shamelessly.
There’s much more crap you can find out. This guy is thirty now and is still targeting younger people (you may have seen him posting his number in places telling you to call him if you feel unhappy, which is probably one of the more dangerous things you can do.
You can read more about him here:
"And I’m prouder of that than if I’d simply been ‘good’ from the beginning": Why I Think Andy Blake is (still) Dangerous
ATF links This one is super useful as it has a whole bunch of links to the warning blogs.
Primer on Andy Blake
The warning that went out to the Teen Wolf fandom that he also tried to weasle in on.
You can also find more info on him in the andythanfiction and thanfiction tags on tumblr. Don’t try “Andy Bake” or “Andrew Blake”, however, as that’s the name of a famous porn director. Fun fact, he picked that name to make it harder to trace him, so that’s not sketch at all.
So stay safe. He’s a bad guy with a terrible record. Don’t let his shitty art copy pasting/painting over fool you.
trigger warning: sexual assualt tw: sexual assault tw: abuse trigger warning: abuse tw: cult trigger warning: cult tw: fat shamming trigger warning: fat shaming
This guy is serious bad news. Reading his background triggers the fuck out of me. Be as wary of him as you would be of Strex.
Hahahaha oh my god Andy Thanfiction is getting into Night Vale?
For those who aren’t familiar with him, the deeper you get into this dude’s background, the weirder it gets. He’s manipulative and abusive, hugely creepy, and somehow doesn’t get that the internet makes it very easy to make sure his shady-ass past follows him everywhere.
He tries to parley BNF-dom off of having written a long-ass Harry Potter fic, Dumbledore’s Army and the Year of Darkness. (It sucks.) So you might recognize that.
Like, he tried this “hello internet it me!” shit with the SPN fandom a while ago, apparently clueless that a good chunk of the internet knows him as “Oh my god it’s that guy from Tentmoot”.
Yes. That guy.
There’s some good writeups on that drama floating around fandom_wank, and someone whose name I can’t recall has written about her horrifying experiences with this creep. (The tl;dr to them is that Andy Thanfiction is probably the most emotionally abusive human I have heard of, and his behavior does not stop at the body-shaming mentioned in the OP. Oh God does it ever not.)
Don’t be friends with this dude. He has not changed in the last ten years. He is an enormous creep. Stay far the fuck away. He has tried (half-assedly) to conceal his shady, shady past, but I’m pleased to see that other people who remember his other antics refuse to let that happen.
Oh, and he’s not thirty. He’s more like thirty-six now.
And still creepin on vulnerable teenagers.
Let me show you some links about this motherfucker…
Archived fandomwank wiki article.
2004 Fandom Wank article (please note, this was written before Andy’s trans status was known / before he came out / fucked if I know, so all the pronouns are wrong, but it’s a good writeup).
Tag for this person on Fandom Wank. (Tagged under prior nick of “Victoria Bitter”, but yeah, it’s him.)
Dude is fucked up.
I think he’s born 1983, so he’s thirty turning thirty one.
I left out most of the details (but included links to find this information) to avoid him claiming that this is another fandom witch hunt.
I have the feeling that he decided to take a stab at sneaking into WTNV at this moment because of the recent problems with an undeserved call out. I wanted to point to the massive amount of info rather than write more and risk getting any detail wrong (that is, undocumented) and having that be used as a deflection later on.
Whoops, I’m a dip >< I was referring to his 2008 ff.net bio where he claimed to be 30 then.
I figured that it might be useful to some to provide links to his history pre-Tumblr — I don’t know if he has claimed “omg witch hunt” before over things like that?
Anyway, when I see callouts of him on here they often skip the weird, fascinating history of his behavior in the LOTR and HP fandoms, so I thought I’d slip a couple links to writeups from that time in. The more you know and all that.
Thanks for the killer write-up :D It covers his recent history very well, and I don’t think there’s such a thing as too much information when you’re pointing out a fandom creep.
Not a dip. The details change so much it’s hard to keep track.
I absolutely agree on the more info thing. I believe his current schtick is to claim he’s changed and that people should forget about his past.
It would be smart to sneak in now and go “see, you’re treating me like how you treated that one actually super innocent member of fandom that ran them off” (not including their name; it would be easy to figure it out as it has been a recent and large issue in the fandom, but since they deleted their ao3 and tumblr, I don’t want to strengthen the link between their psued and the fandom wank).
He’ll claim to be a martyr no matter what, but I’d rather let people who know him and his claims better be the ones to do the vast majority of the speaking as I don’t want to make their work harder by accidentally introducing something that he can use as woobie fodder. Hence me mostly just linking to things like AFT, which is a huge info dump. And also reblogging you since you included more info.
I don’t usually post fandom related things on this blog, but I know plenty of my followers are involved in fandom and someone like this needs to be known.
sailour—weenie said: i think vanessa would be lesbian
tiniestdormouse said: I would go for Vanessa. Or Miranda XDD Tho if Sheryl was a lesbian who only married for political reasons, that would be an interesting twist to her relationship with Rufus.
Vanessa then. Though I have to wonder, weren’t people homophobic back then? Vanessa seems to be kinda conservative and strict with these things, so I have to wonder…
and Miranda was just a freak fixated with heads. She was skull-sexual. (?)
And I was thinking about Sheryl too, but we can’t really say this for sure… it’s an interesting theory though.
Heeeeeeeeeey, this is a secondary fantasy world— PH society can be homophobic as much as you/the creator decides the world is homophobic. XDDD
I have to add, though, even if the world of PH had social standards similar to 19th century Europe (which it draws its aesthetic from):
1) Lesbianism was basically underrated and frequently UNHEARD of, especially compared to all of the taboo attention given to male gay culture (ex. Oscar Wilde & dandyism). Especially since gender standards dictated that women had no independent sexual desire unless they were “wanton”, two women who were upper or middle class co-habitating with each other or being causally intimate (such as holding hands in public) would not be viewed as possibly lovers, but only close bosom friends.
2) Gender standards allowed more flexibility for homosexual men and women to live freely as long as they still conformed outwardly to gender norms. For example, women who wanted to be treated like men dressed like a man — and there were lesser qualms if she became known for chaperoning single women, because she “acted” like the opposite gender. Same goes for men who cross-dressed (in fact, the phrase “letting your hair down” started as a 19th century idiom for men who cross-dressed as women during off-hours outside of work or home).
So, it would be reasonable under these standards that Vanessa could have IDed as being a lady lover, and that would’ve been seen as acceptable by society.
Tuesday, July 29, 2014
yndr-the-sea . psd
uh….. uuuhhhhhh………i’m sure firefighter makoto also has a killer whale mode
Anonymous said: Indigo :3
1) I’m really bad at names & faces. ^^;;
2) I tend to overcommit to things and then get overly-stressed about getting these commitments done.